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The let them theory : a life-changing tool that millions of people can't stop talking about

2024

Title:	The let them theory : a life-changing tool that millions of people can't stop talking about / Mel Robbins.
Author:	Robbins, Mel, 1968- author.
Summary:	"A simple, transformative approach to improving personal and professional relationships by shifting focus from controlling others to accepting them, offering science-backed strategies to reduce stress, enhance happiness, foster healthier connections, and empower individuals to prioritize their well-being and achieve personal fulfillment"-- Provided by publisher.
Format:	Book
Description:	325 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
Genre:	Self-help publications.
Subjects:	Self-actualization (Psychology) Success. Self-talk. Self-realization. Interpersonal relations. Friendship.
Edition:	1st edition.
Publisher, Date:	Carlsbad, California : Hay House LLC, 2024.
Notes:	Includes bibliographical references (pages 309-322).
ISBN:	9781401971366 1401971369
Other Number:	1474363307
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Author Notes

Mel Robbins is the creator and host of The Mel Robbins Podcast , which is the most shared and followed podcast in the world and is nominated for the first-ever Golden Globe for Best Podcast, and author of The Let Them Theory , the chart-topping, #1 selling book of 2025.

She has amassed 40 million followers online and is one of the most respected experts in mindset, life improvement, and behavior change. The Wall Street Journal calls her a "billion-view podcaster," and TIME magazine says she gives millions of listeners around the globe "a reason to believe in themselves."

Her books have been translated into 65 languages and include the #1 New York Times , #1 Amazon, #1 Audible, and #1 Sunday Times bestselling The Let Them Theory , which is the top-selling book of 2025 according to Publishers Weekly, with 8+ million copies sold in its first eleven months. The Let Them Theory was named one of the Best Books of the Year by Amazon, Goodreads, Barnes & Noble, Audible, Books-A-Million, Publishers Weekly, Target, and Waterstones, and is on pace to become the most successful nonfiction book launch of all time. Robbins is also the author of the multimillion-copy-selling The 5 Second Rule , The High 5 Habit , and seven #1 audiobook releases on Audible.

USA Today calls Mel "a force to be reckoned with." She is a global phenomenon in the publishing industry and podcasting. Her Boston-based media production company, 143 Studios, produces award-winning content, podcasts, events, audio series, online courses, journals, and books, along with professional development education for partners like Starbucks, Ulta Beauty, JPMorgan Chase, LinkedIn, Headspace, and Audible.

The Mel Robbins Podcast is one of the most popular podcasts in the world. It is nominated for the first-ever Golden Globe Award for Best Podcast, and was named the #1 most-followed show on Apple Podcasts and selected as one of the best podcasts of 2025 by the Apple Podcasts' editorial team. It was recognized as the third largest show in the world by both Spotify and Apple Podcasts for 2025, and had the #1 most-shared episode of the year on both platforms. It also has won some of the most prestigious awards given to podcasts, including Webby, Signal, Spotify Creator, and iHeartPodcast Awards.

Notable accolades for Robbins include being named to TIME 100 Creators as one of the most influential digital voices of 2025, USA Today Top Mindset & Performance Coaches in the World, one of the fifty most influential influencers on The Hollywood Reporter's Creator A-List, and a Forbes 50 Over 50 Honoree.

Learn more at melrobbins.com.

Fiction/Biography Profile

Genre
	NonFiction
	Self-help
	Psychological
Topics
	Motivation
	Psychology
	Happiness
	Confidence
	Relationships
	Success
	Fear
	Resilience (Personality trait)
	Freedom

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Publishers Weekly Review

Readers should put the energy they waste worrying about others' opinions toward leading more empowered lives, according to this upbeat guide. Motivational speaker Robbins (The High 5 Habit) outlines how accepting others for who they are and focusing instead on the actions one can take to improve things--what she calls the "let them/let me" method--helps reveal what's within one's control and how to manage one's actions accordingly. Those dealing with difficult family members, for example, should avoid trying to change their opinions ("Let your dad be your dad") and focus on building the "kind of relationship I want" with them, "based on the kind of person I want to be." Similarly, those struggling with the tendency to compare themselves to others should recognize that harping on someone else's advantages drains motivation for changing one's own life. In down-to-earth prose, the author lucidly distinguishes her theory from simply "letting go," noting that "accepting the reality of your situation doesn't mean you're surrendering to it" but rather releasing "control you never had." Robbins's fans will want to snap this up. (Dec.)

Kirkus Review

A sensible self-help guide that counsels giving other people leeway to do as they will while taking care of oneself. It's not indifference that drives Robbins to counsel letting go of things beyond one's control, but instead acknowledgment that, as Buddhists say, "suffering comes from resisting reality." The reality of the world is that everyone wants to rule it: We crave control, but that control is illusory, and people will for the most part do whatever they want.Let them, Robbins counsels in her frequently voiced mantra: "When you stop managing everyone else," she holds, "you'll realize you have a lot more power than you thought--you've just unknowingly been giving it away." Neither is it indifference to stop caring what others think, Robbins suggests, but you can of course model such good behavior that you don't deserve another's negative opinion. Some of Robbins' advice is easy enough to adopt, such as her inspired "5 Second Rule," counting backward from 5 before launching into an activity that one might not want to do, like paying the bills. Other strategies require of readers the patience of a saint, as when, instead of raising a stink when a fellow airplane passenger refuses to cover his mouth as he coughs and wheezes, she covers her mouth and nose with a scarf and puts on headphones. "Problem solved," she writes, adding that the corollary toLet them isLet me, as inLet me adjust my behavior to cover what I can actually control. Robbins tours through a host of situations, from breaking up with a bad friend to interrogating yourself about why you're upset about something, with sometimes surprising answers that often boil down to simple solutions, such as "Stop choosing to chase people who clearly do not want to be with you." A truly helpful treatise on seeing others as they are, and letting that be. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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Over 7 Million Copies Sold!
#1 New York Times Bestseller
#1 Sunday Times Bestseller
#1 Amazon Bestseller
#1 Audible Bestseller

A Life-Changing Tool Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About

What if the key to happiness, success, and love was as simple as two words?

If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated with where you are, the problem isn't you. The problem is the power you give to other people. Two simple words-- Let Them --will set you free. Free from the opinions, drama, and judgments of others. Free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. The Let Them Theory puts the power to create a life you love back in your hands--and this book will show you exactly how to do it.

In her latest groundbreaking book, The Let Them Theory , Mel Robbins-- New York Times bestselling author and one of the world's most respected experts on motivation, confidence, and mindset--teaches you how to stop wasting energy on what you can't control and start focusing on what truly matters: YOU. Your happiness. Your goals. Your life.

Using the same no-nonsense, science-backed approach that's made The Mel Robbins Podcast a global sensation, Robbins explains why The Let Them Theory is already loved by millions and how you can apply it in eight key areas of your life to make the biggest impact. Within a few pages, you'll realize how much energy and time you've been wasting trying to control the wrong things--at work, in relationships, and in pursuing your goals--and how this is keeping you from the happiness and success you deserve.

Written as an easy-to-understand guide, Robbins shares relatable stories from her own life, highlights key takeaways, relevant research and introduces you to world-renowned experts in psychology, neuroscience, relationships, happiness, and ancient wisdom who champion The Let Them Theory every step of the way.

Learn how to:

Stop wasting energy on things you can't control Stop comparing yourself to other people Break free from fear and self-doubt Release the grip of people's expectations Build the best friendships of your life Create the love you deserve Pursue what truly matters to you with confidence Build resilience against everyday stressors and distractions Define your own path to success, joy, and fulfillment . . . and so much more.

The Let Them Theory will forever change the way you think about relationships, control, and personal power. Whether you want to advance your career, motivate others to change, take creative risks, find deeper connections, build better habits, start a new chapter, or simply create more happiness in your life and relationships, this book gives you the mindset and tools to unlock your full potential.

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory now and discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words.

The cover has been updated to include the name of co-author Sawyer Robbins. Customers may receive either version of the cover at random.

Table of Contents

	Introduction: My Story	1
	The Let them Theory
1	Stop Wasting Your Life on Things You Can't Control	17
2	Getting Started: Let them + Let Me	33
	You and the Let them Theory
	Managing Stress
3	Shocker: Life is Stressful	55
4	Let them Stress You Out	67
	Fearing Other People's Opinions
5	Let them Think Bad Thoughts about You	79
6	How to Love Difficult People	95
	Dealing with Someone Else's Emotional Reactions
7	When Grown-Ups Throw Tantrums	109
8	The Right Decision Often Feels Wrong	121
	Overcoming Chronic Comparison
9	Yes, Life isn't Fair	131
10	How to Make Comparison Your Teacher	139
	Your Relationships and the Let them Theory
	Mastering Adult Friendship
11	The Truth No One Told You about Adult Friendship	157
12	Why Some Friendships Naturally Fade	167
13	How to Create the Best Friendships of Your Life	177
	Motivating Other People to Change
14	People Only Change When they Feel Like it	191
15	Unlock the Power of Your Influence	207
	Helping Someone Who is Struggling
16	The More You Rescue, The More they Sink	225
17	How to Provide Support the Right Way	237
	Choosing the Love You Deserve
18	Let them Show You Who they Are	249
19	How to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level	261
20	How Every Ending Is a Beautiful Beginning	269
	Conclusion: Your Let Me Era is Here	293
	Appendix
	How to Apply Let them to Parenting	300
	How to Apply Let them to Teams	301
	Let Me Acknowledge You	303
	Bibliography	309
	About Mel	323
	How to Stay in Touch with Me	325

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